When I Googled wallflower, the following popped up:
- a southern European plant of the cabbage family, with fragrant yellow, orange-red, dark red, or brown flowers, cultivated for its early spring blooming.
- informal: a person who has no one to dance with or who feels shy, awkward, or excluded at a party.
For the purpose of this site, we’re going to go with the informal definition because I don’t like cabbage, and I’m definitely a late bloomer.
But let me just say, I don’t think the second definition describes me fully either because I was never invited to parties and thus didn’t have the opportunity to feel shy, awkward or excluded.
That’s not completely fair either–I was invited to some parties–I just chose not to go most times because I’m an introvert and that’s what we do or get the reputation for doing.
Introverts have a bad rap for hating people and social interactions. I happen to love people and hanging out with them! I just can’t do it all day every day because it drains me and then I get crabby.
And if I’m at a party and off in the corner please don’t mistake that for me being shy or feeling excluded–I’m actually enjoying myself observing everyone else. People watching is one of my favorite things, and if you could read the thoughts going through my mind, you’d find I’m a little bit sassy.
lively, bold, and full of spirit; cheeky.
I love being an introvert, but I don’t want let that completely define who I am or be an excuse to not put myself out there when needed.
I also love surprising people and doing things they wouldn’t expect. For a wallflower living in a world geared toward the outgoing, that takes courage.
Courage looks comically different for us introverts. An act of bravery for me may be leaving a voicemail or dancing at a party–both of which I’ve done with varying levels of success and awkwardness.
Thus the Sassy Wallflower will be an outlet to celebrate the paradox that is the introvert living in an extrovert’s world.
If you’re an extrovert, I doubt you’ve taken the time to keep reading this–but if you have, I hope you will laugh and maybe understand us a little bit better.
If you’re an introvert, I hope you will also laugh and relate and realize you’re not alone.